List Format for July 5th.
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dagas_isa1. My parents are now on Facebook. This is going to...end well, I imagine.
2. Last night, I learned that I can have nightmares induced in me! Fun! Apparently reading fail!fic featuring concentration camps and genocide does it for me. Good to know. (For context, I rarely remember my dreams)
3. Muu and I went down to Cupcake Royale to get cupcakes and coffee on the fourth. Only they were out of the strawberry ones. So I had the Salted Carmel and he had the Red, White, and Blue Velvet.
4. We didn't do anything else for the 4th except shake our fists at the neighbors who thought setting off big fireworks in our apartment complex was a good idea.
5. I'm going to be definitely looking to write things that make me happy.
6. Have a meme!
1. How can I tell if you're angry?
Online, I'm not sure if you can. I tend to disengage before that. If I am engaging, I don't use the qualifiers I usually do. (See the previous post, if you want an example).
Offline, I get seethy and express my anger very physically--not violently most of the time--but like fist clenching, object slamming, etc. I also storm off. If you really want to know ask Muu, and he's probably the top authority on Jais anger both as an object and as a witness.
I'm not terribly quick-tempered though, and I'll most likely remove myself from situations if I think it's getting too far.
2. How should I behave around you if you're angry?
If I storm off, let me storm off and blow off steam for 15 minutes or so, and then talk to me. If I'm getting sharp-tempered and picking fights, then I'd much rather have the fight then have someone shy away.
3. How do you want me to behave when you are hurting emotionally? How is it best to comfort you?
In both IRL and online, asking on individual cases is probably best. I'll probably either want to talk about it, or I'll ask you for some happy distraction. IRL, you can imagine that I'll want some kind of touch too.
4. Are there things we should not discuss?
Right now, I have issues with pregnancy/miscarriage/young babies/abortion. At this point, talking about babies in general that are 6 months or older and specific children over the age of 3, doesn't seem to bother me. But pregnancy, newborns, and especially difficulties with either one can basically lead to a meltdown.
Also: If for some reason you're posting pictures of babies, or linking to pictures, just some sort of note like "This is a baby" and a cut or something like that helps like you wouldn't believe. And if we're meeting somewhere IRL and you're either visibly pregnant or carrying a baby, something as simple as "Hey, I'm pregnant" or "Hey, I have an infant with me" ahead of time (with the option of me being able to back out if I'm not up for it) does a tremendous amount of good for my well-being.
As for the abortion issue, just...I'll bring it up if I want to talk about it and believe that you'll be supportive.
5. How should I treat you when you are ill?
IRL, keeping me in one spot, letting me sleep, petting. Online, either poking me to keep me awake or sending me off to sleep.
6. What makes you happy that's in my power to grant you?
Fandom squee. Initiating conversations. Reviews/comments on my fic. Basically one-on-one attention.
7. How would you like us to recognise your birthday?
Honestly, just having people remember is nice. Messages/phone-calls/etc. If you've got some time, sending me an e-mail or chatting with me on AIM would really be lovely.
If we're together IRL, going somewhere nice to eat and then to some museum/other awesome place work.
8. Are there any standing categories of presents that would be appropriate or unwelcome? Honestly, I'd rather just get cards or messages or have the opportunity to talk to people. But books, fics, and art are always welcome.
9. Are there times of the year that are difficult for you? Please explain if you are comfortable.
Not in particular. Climate-wise, Seattle's pretty much perfect for me. I'm not a huge fan of the heat. Emotionally, things tend to blow up around fall, but things come as they happen.
10. Are there important anniversaries in your life?
Halloween is the anniversary of the day thatmuusu and I met in person, and we're planning for it to be our wedding anniversary.
11. How do I cater for you if you are visiting me?
Hmm...I don't eat red meat and I'm not huge on spicy foods, but otherwise, I'm not a hugely picky eater. I'll probably try and monopolize any friendly pets, and I'm more likely to hang out on the periphery. Also, my schedule skews early, so having access to something to do that's quiet in the morning will help out, if our internal clocks aren't in sync.
12. If I want to contact you, how should I do it?
PM me on DW. You can also get me by email at dagasisa [at] gmail [dot] com, once that's properly formatted. Also I'm constantly signed in on AIM with the screen name dagasisa.
7. I need to do something with my life.
8. I'm on Chapter 12 in FFXIII. Besides the obvious femslash ships, I also kind of ship the whole party, but more in sort of a cuddle-pile way, not necessarily in a romantic or sexual way.
2. Last night, I learned that I can have nightmares induced in me! Fun! Apparently reading fail!fic featuring concentration camps and genocide does it for me. Good to know. (For context, I rarely remember my dreams)
3. Muu and I went down to Cupcake Royale to get cupcakes and coffee on the fourth. Only they were out of the strawberry ones. So I had the Salted Carmel and he had the Red, White, and Blue Velvet.
4. We didn't do anything else for the 4th except shake our fists at the neighbors who thought setting off big fireworks in our apartment complex was a good idea.
5. I'm going to be definitely looking to write things that make me happy.
6. Have a meme!
1. How can I tell if you're angry?
Online, I'm not sure if you can. I tend to disengage before that. If I am engaging, I don't use the qualifiers I usually do. (See the previous post, if you want an example).
Offline, I get seethy and express my anger very physically--not violently most of the time--but like fist clenching, object slamming, etc. I also storm off. If you really want to know ask Muu, and he's probably the top authority on Jais anger both as an object and as a witness.
I'm not terribly quick-tempered though, and I'll most likely remove myself from situations if I think it's getting too far.
2. How should I behave around you if you're angry?
If I storm off, let me storm off and blow off steam for 15 minutes or so, and then talk to me. If I'm getting sharp-tempered and picking fights, then I'd much rather have the fight then have someone shy away.
3. How do you want me to behave when you are hurting emotionally? How is it best to comfort you?
In both IRL and online, asking on individual cases is probably best. I'll probably either want to talk about it, or I'll ask you for some happy distraction. IRL, you can imagine that I'll want some kind of touch too.
4. Are there things we should not discuss?
Right now, I have issues with pregnancy/miscarriage/young babies/abortion. At this point, talking about babies in general that are 6 months or older and specific children over the age of 3, doesn't seem to bother me. But pregnancy, newborns, and especially difficulties with either one can basically lead to a meltdown.
Also: If for some reason you're posting pictures of babies, or linking to pictures, just some sort of note like "This is a baby" and a cut or something like that helps like you wouldn't believe. And if we're meeting somewhere IRL and you're either visibly pregnant or carrying a baby, something as simple as "Hey, I'm pregnant" or "Hey, I have an infant with me" ahead of time (with the option of me being able to back out if I'm not up for it) does a tremendous amount of good for my well-being.
As for the abortion issue, just...I'll bring it up if I want to talk about it and believe that you'll be supportive.
5. How should I treat you when you are ill?
IRL, keeping me in one spot, letting me sleep, petting. Online, either poking me to keep me awake or sending me off to sleep.
6. What makes you happy that's in my power to grant you?
Fandom squee. Initiating conversations. Reviews/comments on my fic. Basically one-on-one attention.
7. How would you like us to recognise your birthday?
Honestly, just having people remember is nice. Messages/phone-calls/etc. If you've got some time, sending me an e-mail or chatting with me on AIM would really be lovely.
If we're together IRL, going somewhere nice to eat and then to some museum/other awesome place work.
8. Are there any standing categories of presents that would be appropriate or unwelcome? Honestly, I'd rather just get cards or messages or have the opportunity to talk to people. But books, fics, and art are always welcome.
9. Are there times of the year that are difficult for you? Please explain if you are comfortable.
Not in particular. Climate-wise, Seattle's pretty much perfect for me. I'm not a huge fan of the heat. Emotionally, things tend to blow up around fall, but things come as they happen.
10. Are there important anniversaries in your life?
Halloween is the anniversary of the day that
muusu and I met in person, and we're planning for it to be our wedding anniversary.11. How do I cater for you if you are visiting me?
Hmm...I don't eat red meat and I'm not huge on spicy foods, but otherwise, I'm not a hugely picky eater. I'll probably try and monopolize any friendly pets, and I'm more likely to hang out on the periphery. Also, my schedule skews early, so having access to something to do that's quiet in the morning will help out, if our internal clocks aren't in sync.
12. If I want to contact you, how should I do it?
PM me on DW. You can also get me by email at dagasisa [at] gmail [dot] com, once that's properly formatted. Also I'm constantly signed in on AIM with the screen name dagasisa.
7. I need to do something with my life.
8. I'm on Chapter 12 in FFXIII. Besides the obvious femslash ships, I also kind of ship the whole party, but more in sort of a cuddle-pile way, not necessarily in a romantic or sexual way.
