On Safety Nets and "Failing Better"

This is kind of a "thinky thought" post on measures that can be taken to "fail less" or "fail better" when it comes to writing about oppressed groups, especially ones in which the author does not self-identify as a member of that group. It's been stewing in my head in relation to various and sundry fails, but I've been unsure as to how to write and whether to post this. It's a rather privileged author writing a post for rather privileged people about my personal thoughts on failing better when writing about people with non-privileged identities and experiences without the safety net of a knowledgeable beta reader.

( Cut because this is both long and contains a privileged person talking about privilege )

( Tangent: How this applies when I am part of the group )

I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to respond to all comments, and I reserve the right to screen comments in order to prevent blatantly -phobic or -ist comments from getting through.

Also, if you, as an individual, don't care about writing about "the other" in non-problematic ways, then don't care, but please don't use this space to tell others that they shouldn't care or put forth the effort.